We are living in an age where the model celebrity is not a carbon copy shape of the 90s!
The time to embrace everyone’s individuality is here, but there are some narrow-minded laggers who are still living in the dark ages.
Unfortunately body shaming is still a thing, coming from those hiding behind their computer screens who feel like they can and should voice their opinions.
If you haven’t stood up for yourself then the time is now. Time for revolution.
One way of dealing with body shaming is to clapback. It feels good in the moment, and it might even make them think twice about doing it to someone else.
If you’re being body shamed online, you can also try ignoring them or blocking them. If the harassment is persistent or starts escalating, consider reporting them. If it occurs in the real world, you can walk away or ask them to stop. If you really want to shake things up, try turning it around on them and agreeing with them! They won’t know what hit them.
Body Shaming can show its face in many ways – opinions of whether you are too fat, too thin, long legs, big hips, no bum, too much bum, well endowed, red hair, curly hair, etc. You can’t please them all!
Here are a few ways you can deal with body shaming:
Retaliation: You need to be quick witted and also ready for it to escalate. Some psychologists suggest this approach can provoke your abusers into fighting with you.
Awareness: There are narrow minded people out there – you have the upper hand knowing that you are not one of those. Acknowledging that they are miserable and obviously unhappy with their appearance, and the simple fact that you are accepting of your body is a victory in itself.
Fight hate with love: This is a go-to for celebrities. See below for some inspiration.
Clapback: “No one wants to see your face either!”
Love: “I’m glad they grabbed your attention!”
Clapback: “I didn’t ask you and neither did anyone else.”
Love: “Thanks for noticing!”
Clapback: “I could eat a burger and put on some weight, but you’re rude and there’s no cure for that.”
Love: “Are you asking me out on date?”
Clapback: “That was you measuring a 9.9 on the heartless richter scale.”
Love: “What you felt was a connection between you and I – I felt it too!”
Clapback: “You’ll never be happy! Oh wait – you’re not trying.”
Love: “What I do in my personal time is actually none of your business, but thanks for thinking of me.”
Clapback: “My husband will be relieved.”
Love: “So, you love me just the way I am?”
Clapback: “In my universe, and it would be better off without you.”
Love: “In my universe, would you like a tour?”
Clapback: “If you’re trying to sell one, I’m not interested.”
Love: “I’m so glad you’re concerned about my weight but you’re not my doctor.”
Once you’re ashamed of yourself, you let negativity manifest. Sometimes you’re better off just being without those types of people in your life. You are beautiful. You are human. Period. Cut that negativity out.
As Lady Gaga so eloquently put it on Instagram:
I heard my body is a topic of conversation so I wanted to say, I’m proud of my body and you should be proud of yours too. No matter who you are or what you do. I could give you a million reasons why you don’t need to cater to anyone or anything to succeed. Be you, and be relentlessly you. That’s the stuff of champions. Thank you so much everyone for supporting me. I love you guys. xoxo, Gaga
“Is fat really the worst thing a human being can be? Is fat worse than vindictive, jealous, shallow, vain, boring, evil, or cruel? Not to me.” – JK Rowling.
Even if you do not want to jump in and defend yourself to a total stranger, your mother, or a fellow shopper at Target, there’s a good chance others will jump in. A battle shared is a battle won, after all. Likewise, if you see someone being bullied and they haven’t defended themselves, why not jump in!
Life is too short to worry about others’ petty opinions. The only one that matters is yours. If you can learn to love yourself, find your inner strength and stop comparing yourself to others, the opinions of body shamers won’t affect you.